Phone: 07870 631253

 

Couples Therapy

In-person in Brighton & Hove, and also online working with clients in the UK and internationally.

Rebuild, Reconnect, & Renew Your Relationship

Are you feeling disconnected in your relationship?

 

Do you find yourselves stuck in the same arguments, feeling unseen or unheard?

 

If so, you’re not alone.

 

Many couples go through difficult phases, but it doesn’t have to mean the end.

 

I am here to help you explore the possibility of transforming your relationship into something deeper, stronger, and more fulfilling.

 

How I Can Help

Through working together in couples therapy, I can help you:

 

  • Learn new ways to communicate and truly listen.
  • Explore unresolved issues from the past that may be affecting your present.
  • Rebuild trust, respect, and intimacy.
  • Develop skills to manage conflict with love and care.
  • Discover how to balance independence and togetherness.

 

What I Offer

I offer a safe space to explore the complexities of your relationship. Using a blend of modern and creative approaches to couples therapy, I hold you in the possibility of moving from conflict to connection, from blame to understanding.

 

Healing the Wounded Parts

I work to help you both understand how past experiences, often from childhood, can impact your adult relationships. Unhealed wounds may cause you or your partner to act defensively or avoid intimacy. In our sessions, we’ll gently explore these hidden parts, helping you both understand how old wounds might be affecting your relationship today.

 

Restoring Balance and Respect

I will also help you explore the power dynamics in your relationship. Sometimes, one partner can dominate or withdraw, creating imbalance. I work with you to bring more equality, mutual respect, and partnership. My goal is to help you build a relationship where both partners feel heard, valued, and supported.

 

Reigniting Intimacy and Passion

Esther Perel teaches us that relationships need both security and excitement. Sometimes, couples become stuck in routine, losing the spark that once brought them together. I can help you explore how to bring passion and intimacy back into your connection. By understanding the dance between closeness and distance, there can be possibility in reigniting the fire in your relationship.

 

Awareness, Acceptance and Action

I provide a gentle but effective environment for change based on curiosity, non-judgement and self compassion. This supports a model for change drawing on awareness, acceptance and action.

I offer some insight into these areas below to start you off on your journey of awareness and acceptance.

Resources for couples therapy - BOOKS

The following books might be of interest in providing an understanding of relationships, helping couples navigate challenges, reconnect, and deepen intimacy.

NICK DUFFELL

  1. Sex, Love and the Dangers of Intimacy
    This book explores how unresolved childhood issues and emotional wounds can impact adult relationships. Nick Duffell and Helena Lovendal uncover the complexities of intimacy and offer guidance on how to build healthier connections.

TERRY REAL

 

  1. The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work Terry Real offers practical advice on how couples can stop sabotaging their relationships and build genuine intimacy. His book focuses on breaking through unhealthy patterns and restoring balance and respect in partnerships.
  2. Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship In Us, Terry Real challenges the individualistic mindset that often dominates modern relationships, where each partner focuses on their own needs and desires. He advocates for a shift from “me” thinking to “we” thinking, where both partners work together as a team to nurture the relationship. Through practical advice and real-life examples, Real shows how couples can move beyond power struggles, embrace vulnerability, and create a deep, loving connection that benefits both individuals and the partnership as a whole. This book is a guide for building stronger, more compassionate relationships.
  3. I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression
    This groundbreaking book addresses how hidden depression in men can affect relationships and families. Real explores how to heal from these issues and create stronger emotional bonds in relationships.

 

ESTHER PEREL 

 

  1. Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence
    Esther Perel explores the tension between domesticity and desire, revealing how couples can maintain eroticism in long-term relationships. This book offers a fresh perspective on how to balance love, intimacy, and passion.
  2. The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity
    In this thought-provoking book, Perel looks at infidelity from a nuanced perspective, challenging traditional views of betrayal and offering new insights into how couples can heal and grow after an affair.

 

Podcasts

Where Should We Begin with Esther Perel: https://www.estherperel.com/podcast

Join Esther in her office every Monday to listen in as real couples in search of help bare the raw, intimate, and profound details of their stories.
These resources are provided as potential support and guidance for couples looking for support in their relationship. It is important to remember of course that each person and couple’s journey is unique and finding the right resources and support can be an important part of the healing process.
 

Want to find out more about working together? Contact me now for a free 20 minute online call.

 

I look forward to hearing from you.